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Fuck Yes or No

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September 13, 2019

One night, I was telling a friend that decisions are easy to make. If something is not a Fuck Yes, it is a no. Then it hit me. I must take my own advice.

Most things in life is infinite; the universe, the stars in the world, even money and opportunities. But not everything is infinite. The most precious and finite resource in the world is time. We are limited to 24h per day, 7 days per week. It is the same for the president, Queen, you and me. It is in time where we can chase after the infinite things in life.

But we have to choose wisely — how do you want to spend these precious limited time.

It’s a No

Here is where Fuck Yes or NO comes in. For weeks, I have been debating on making a decision that seems nice with really great opportunities. Yet in the same vein, it is nothing close to my Fuck Yes. It makes economical sense, but I have no burning passion or desire to want to do it.

I was honestly fearful to say no.

It feels extremely silly of me, to debate with a yellow legal pad, the pros and cons of the opportunity. Because deep down, I know it is not a fuck yes. In the end, I wasted precious time convincing myself to make a rational decision. It turns out, sometimes, the gut feeling is the best decision maker. I know that it is not a fuck yes.

After making the decision, I felt free. I could be myself again. I felt 100% back in my element. That is the most liberating feeling of this quarter.

Liberation in No

I used to make decisions with Fuck Yes or NO, 2 years ago. But I became distracted with weighing opportunities and thinking way too much about the next 3 steps and possible outcomes. (How do game theorists make decisions? I feel like it takes you forever to make one.)

I’m back now, back in my element, back in my routine, back in being who I am. If something is not a Fuck Yes, I will not do it. Time is too precious to waste it on things that are not Fuck Yes.

While that means making some hard decisions like cutting people out of my life, saying no to many things and develop the patience for the Fuck Yes things, I know that with each Fuck Yes opportunity, it will be the most amazing outcome the world will see.

How To Get to Fuck Yes

  1. Know what you want. Know exactly what you will say Fuck Yes to
  2. Say no to things that are not Fuck Yes
  3. Actively look for opportunities, while having the patience for Fuck Yes to appear
  4. Put 200% into Fuck Yes when you finally find it

Have the courage to say NO to things you don’t want, so that you can put 200% on the Fuck Yes things that you want.

Love,
L

Ps: I am 100% aware that this sounds extremely spoilt. But it is does not have to be. If you are limited by opportunities, reframe the opportunity to be aligned with your Fuck Yes goals. Or see it as a stepping stone towards the Fuck Yes. Be certain about your Fuck Yes goals, be flexible with your journey there.

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