I always believe that when you love* someone, you never ever stop loving them.
*Love as in the rawest and truest form of love.
How ever you define love can differ, but I define the deepest form of love as a real relationship. The relationship that continues even when we both realise that we are not meant to be together as a couple. The romantic love becomes family love. And that’s the best kind of love. Because it’s not just love during the happy times, but also to be there when shit happens. I’m most grateful for this kind of love.
You also love their families
The part about relationship is that it also comes with more than just 1 person. When you are in a real relationship with someone, you also bring on their family and friends. And when you change that to family love, it also includes their family and friends. And new girlfriends!
Today, I’m most grateful for the 2 greatest love of my life.
Sometimes when I FaceTime V, it gets redirected to his iPad at his home. And I’ll end up catching up with his parents and family. I think it’s genuinely so lovely. His parents telling me about what they are up to, his siblings, catching up about my life, my family, etc. And they also update their family chat about me. That’s so lovely. I’m so grateful. It’s the family kind of love.
Funny thing, I was just thinking about calling V to catch up. But I thought I’d call after my shower. And suddenly, a text came from him, asking to catch up and update him about my life. Some coincidences are simply magical.
And when E randomly calls to chat, he sometimes spends more time catching up with my mum than speaking to me! My mum still always asks about him and we catch up about our lives, families and work.
I guess there is no specific point of this post, except to be grateful and thankful for these loves. I know they both show love in different ways with different language, and I want to acknowledge and practice gratitude for them.
That’s the healthiest and best kind of ex-relationships! I’m so grateful for them.