The old system of how I see the world doesn’t work anymore and I’m looking forward to my new approach of the world.
What are the beliefs that don’t work anymore?
Categorising and systemising everything — life is a lot more fluid and such categorisation isn’t meaningful
Structure — breeds rigidity
Trying to solve the world — it’s not necessary, not meaningful, not possible. The universe doesn’t need that bc it’s already solved. What I can do is to observe and be flexible instead of solving the universe. It’s not needed. Even actual geniuses can’t solve it. I’m not interested to do this anymore.
I get the notion of going to the moon and iterating. Hence the many plans. But I’m starting to realise life isn’t about the moon. Maybe it’s Mars, maybe it’s another solar system, maybe it’s going to the sun. Going to the moon is very limited and I don’t think this limitation works for me anymore. A vision <go somewhere far people haven’t been to> is something to keep but what that place is isn’t and shouldn’t be fixed. We’ll be adaptable as we observe what’s happening. There’s no figuring out, just observing and being flexible.
What could go right?
I am aware and accept that I’m extremely risk averse. Always wondering what could go wrong as I plan my big picture plan. Hence I’m insanely good at planning and organising. It’s natural. Yet moving forward, here’s the new me —
Be adaptable in what I do and my approach. Think about what could go right. There’s risk in everything so why not do it and try. It just might go right. The worst is we die but we all die anyway so that doesn’t matter. Choose the most fun path and watch how it could just all go so right! (Previously it was always choosing the most difficult path bc it’s what I want to experience. I’m done doing that. Simply bc it’s not fun anymore. I want to experience other things now.)
I’ve been thinking too much and considering too much in the aspect of “what could go wrong for who and why” then building solutions and systems to prevent that. It’s not an effective way to live bc there’s too much going on and we can’t plan for randomness. Instead, this is what I want to do — what could go right, and plan first degree. Then we’ll expand more as we go. And solve more as we go. Flexibility and adaptability is key to anti-fragility not structures. Life is a constant battle of solving problems.
Everything is simply in our head. But life is actually super easy and it can be so easy again. So let’s live that life.
Life on easy mood
Fun used to be working on hard things people can’t solve. It no longer seems fun anymore bc solving the world is too broad and not meaningful. Instead, I observe and adapt. And find joy in just being. I’ve been living in the future so much that I’m forgetting to be. The now is good and the now is easy. So let’s keep it this way.
Lesson learnt: I want to be good at the skillset of defining the problem really specifically. Solving the universe is not a well-defined problem.
Whatever we don’t want, we let it go. The cells don’t replicate the things we don’t want. Only keeping the existing parts of Lisa we want and exploring new parts to add to my life.
Life is easy and it can be easy again.
30s
I know when I am back in my clarity mood again, these will be great stories to tell. I’m also glad I’m open to reaching out for help and I finally know what help I need (to be, to get out of my head, to be flexible, acquisition path, product build, selling).
Again, I thought I had the world figured out and I got this all. But in reality, no one has the world figured out bc it’s not necessary nor useful. Instead, we observe and adapt, be nimble and flexible. And move towards fun adventures and experiences. It’s easy. So easy.
I’m glad I’m at this phase in this time. From now on, life is way easier. The previous periods were learning soft skills and grit. Now it’s leveraging them to live life on easy mode. And I’m excited!
Also, many of my friends are all so much more advanced in life and I see them as goals/benchmarks (not comparison), I realised I see the world is a strange and non-useful perspective. This realisation is so powerful.
I got you
“YOU ! GOT ! THIS !” Was my internal battle cry. Then I realised soft Lisa was overshadowed again. I’m excited for soft Lisa to be back in my mind again. Where she’s calm, soft and gently tells me on hard days “I got you”. Hard Lisa’s “you got this” is good on certain moments but not always useful. Give soft Lisa the power and believe in the softness. It’s the softness of water that broke the rock.
And also remember that there are other Lisas in me. The caring Lisa, the lucky Lisa, the chaos Lisa. It seems scary to be a new version of me yet again, but i have so much inside of me that i know I’ll be ok. It’s like my mind telling me “I got you. In all forms. Embrace this new journey and be brave to try.”
I’ve been a big fish in a small pond and it’s been boring for a while now. Finally I realised to be a small fish in a big pond, it’s finding mentors, being flexible and stepping outside my comfort zone. I’m finally ready for this. The time is right. The structures I had before was great for a small pond. And I want to play in a big pond now. So let’s go and do this! I got this and I got me.
Life is teaching me:
First principle is: Flexibility and adaptability
Go out and do that thing. It seems scary but what if it goes good? Go and do that thing
Be open to what comes next. Start adapting. Stop predicting and planning
I have all the hard skills + soft skills. Now it’s just changing and reframing the principles bc many stopped working for me. I’m still building for the future. Instead of planning all the crosses and dots, be flexible and tap into opportunities when they arise. It will all be good.
Here’s to yet a better upgraded version of me. Thank goodness I’m aware of this much needed new version upgrade.
Love,
L