Of Old Habits
Originally posted May 2021
If you’re trying to break a habit, don’t say ‘this is the last time I’m doing it’ to yourself. Instead, say ‘this is the first time I’m not doing it’.
Someone asked me recently on how do I know and track my progress over the years. There is no empirical test, just me reflecting every day, seeing what good habits I made and what bad habits I kicked.
I have never thought about killing myself because life sucks, but I’ve read a quote somewhere about if you want to kill yourself, just kill the bad part of yourself. It resonated very well with me, because there are some parts of Lisa that I really do not like. And I realised I don’t have to live with that part of Lisa. For example, the Lisa that doesn’t love anyone. She’s long gone. I killed her and brought a brand new Lisa who is very much in love with everyone and everything she sees!
Some habits are hard to kick. I know that because I am spending 10+ years kicking the bad habits and start better ones.
Sometimes, it helps by rationally deciding to do the right thing instead
Or it helps by saying out loud what I am going to do, then hear it in my head and realised that is silly
Now, I’m going to add this “this is the first time I’m not doing it”
This will be very applicable to wanting to snack at night or to stop a bad habit. Let’s try! And see if this new method works.
Love,
L